The Modern Survival Guide Vol. 1: Introduction
Objectively speaking, we live in the easiest time to be alive that humanity has ever experienced. Nutritious food is widely available, clean water comes from the tap, clothing is cheap, we have effective medicine, and almost everything is unimaginably attainable by the standards of generations past.
But there’s a catch.
The modern world throws all kinds of challenges at us that we simply are not naturally equipped to deal with. Most of these challenges are things our ancestors simply never had to consider, if only because we have invented so many new things over the last few centuries.
Think about it. Cars have only been around since the late 1800s, and have only been widely available for about a hundred years. The human mind is still working out how to react to them. Case in point — many, many people are afraid of sharpening their kitchen knives, because they’re afraid they might get cut (one wonders if they understand the point of a knife, if you’ll pardon the pun). These same people will happily jump in the car to drive to a store to buy pre-cut meat. Which is more likely to seriously injure you — the knife, or the car? Obviously, from an objective viewpoint, the car is the statistically more dangerous object. But virtually no one is afraid of cars.
This sort of thing is all over the place in modern society, and highlights a key point: our brains are not equipped to easily handle certain abstract concepts (like math — seriously, how many people do you think really grasp the power of the exponential function?). And because of this, we have a hard time drawing lessons from these concepts. “Common sense” is decreasing in usefulness as a yardstick to guide us through life.
Add to this the fact that modern humanity is rapidly breaking down barriers that used to separate cultures. Globalization requires us, increasingly, to interact with groups that we find strange. Meanwhile our evolving moral compass is upending longstanding biases and assumptions. Forty years ago, it was not safe to be gay. Sixty years ago, women were very much second-class citizens. A hundred and sixty years ago people had slaves, and less than fifty years ago the United States was still trying to break down Jim Crow.
This is all throwing fresh light on social pressures and mores that, again, the average person has a hard time reconciling with the new reality. We are hardwired for in-group/out-group dynamics. We are at the mercy of emotional drives designed to protect tribes, not to enable cosmopolitan nation-states.
All of this means that a modern person in a modern civilization is basically a walking pile of contradictory impulses. The only way we survive is to learn which of these are useful and which we should, for our own good, ignore, suppress, or otherwise render feeble. And once we’ve done that, we all have to program our brains to recognize the actual, important stuff that surrounds us. We do this all the time, every day. But it’s very easy to get it wrong and hurt our chances of survival and prosperity in the process.
I’ll be honest, I find the whole thing fascinating to watch and be part of.
This series is an exercise in discussing the things I’ve found in life that I think help, hinder, or otherwise affect our ability to survive the modern world. Oddly enough, I find a lot of it to be more philosophical than hands-on. I think this is because modern living requires more behavior from people, and less physical action.
For lots of people these days, it’s less important to know how to fix a car than it is to know how to deal with a mechanic. Fixing a car requires practical knowledge. Dealing with a mechanic without shooting them requires practical philosophy — namely, a mindset of “I will be lucky to get away with my shirt, but I will track this encounter for future reference and judge this shop against its competitors.” A lot of things are like that, and people aren’t taught to do many of them. We tend to muddle along as best we can.
I’m writing this as a series. I’ll add more items over time, as they occur to me, so at least at the start, this isn’t going to follow a set order of topics. That being said, I do have a number of things that I’ve already thought about, and as I add them I’ll include links below.
Why should you listen to me, though? Well, why should you listen to anyone? If anything, I think it’s easier to read someone’s (relatively) anonymous thoughts on these subjects online — it takes all the emotion out of your decision to trust… or not. Take a look, make your judgement, make your choice. If you’re reading this, you may not agree with everything I say, and that’s OK. It’s almost the point, really. But I do hope that it’s food for thought.
And last but not least, if you have an idea for a modern survival tip, let me know! I’m happy to host guest commentary or write something by request.
Contents of the Modern Survival Guide
Interlude: How to Use a Public Restroom
- #5: Catching Liars
- #6: Apologizing, in Seven Easy Steps
- #7: Constructive Confrontation, in Six Easy Steps
- #8: Seizing the Initiative
Interlude: How to Survive at Any Job
- #9: Understanding Politics
- #10: Spotting Bullshit
- #11: Understanding Science
- #12: Busting Conspiracy Theories
Interlude: How to Run a Meeting
- #13: Knowing the Difference Between Intelligence and Training
- #14: Personal Worth vs. Inherent Value
- #15: The Importance of Image
- #16: Accepting the Limits of Personal Options
- #17: The Most Powerful Emotion
- #18: The Many Facets of the Mind
- #19: The Ideal of Mindfulness
- #20: Identifying Moral Choices
Interlude: Getting Out of the Five Minute Trap
- #21: Understanding the Harm Principle
- #22: Dealing with Religions
- #23: The Conflict of Common Sense
- #24: The Power of the Premise
Interlude: How to Ask for a Raise
- #25: On Job Abuse and Fighting the Power
- #26: On Protests and the Power of Anger
- #27: Navigating National Debates
- #28: Avoiding Disaster Cascades
Interlude: How to Give a Command
- #29: The Impact of Social Bonds
- #30: The Individuality Trap
- #31: The Ethics and Realities of Compassion
- #32: On Good and Evil
Interlude: How to Talk to Doctors
- #33: Basic Internet Self-Defense
- #34: Pitfalls of the Information Age
- #35: Recognizing Scams
- #36: Limits (and Threats) of Automation
Interlude: How to Talk to Lawyers
- #37: Understanding Existential Threats
- #38: Keeping Perspective
- #39: On the Importance of Bipartisanship
- #40: The Need for Enemies
Interlude: How to Walk Through a Crowd
- #41: On “Nice” People
- #42: Dealing With Rational Failure
- #43: Defining Success
- #44: The Limitations of Memory
Interlude: How to Drive on the Highway
- #45: The Purpose of Government
- #46: You Are How You Are Taxed (So Pay Attention)
- #47: Getting Past the Fallacy of Sunk Costs
- #48: Stop Being Afraid of Terrorists
Interlude: What to Do After a Car Wreck
- #49: We’re All Hypocrites, It’s Just a Matter of Scale
- #50: On Truth (A Certain Point of View)
- #51: A Quick and Dirty Guide to Corporate Hierarchy (And How It Affects You)
- #52: On Practical Ethics
Interlude: A Practical Look at Nutrition
- #53: On Mental Health
- #54: The Limits of Escapism
- #55: The Propaganda of Happiness
- #56: On Body Consciousness and Exercise
- #57: Paying Attention to Boring Things
- #58: On Law, and (Mostly) Following It
- #59: Why Tolerance and Acceptance are Good Things
- #60: Five Paths to Inspiring Action
Interlude: How to Interact with the Police
- #61: Why Racism is Bad
- #62: Why Sexism is Bad
- #63: The Promise and Problems of Life Extension
- #64: Why Religious Persecution is Bad
Interlude: How to Deal with Mechanics
- #65: The Value of Life
- #66: The Uses of Violence
- #67: The Fine Art of Giving Criticism
- #68: The Fine Art of Keeping Friends
- #69: The Insidious Power of Ritual
- #70: Understanding the Exponent, and Other Ways Math Illiteracy Screws You Over
- #71: The Importance of Saying “Thanks”
- #72: The Nature of Gratitude
- #73: The Nature of Power
- #74: The Nine Applications of Power
- #75: The Security Lie
- #76: Resolving the Paradox of Choice
Interlude: Thirteen Rules for Riding the Subway
- #77: Preparing for Death and Dying
- #78: Surviving Assault
- #79: The Effects of Pain
- #80: The Fine Art of Dealing With Bureaucracy
Interlude: Proper Email Etiquette
- #81: Surviving “Smart” People
- #82: How to Flip a Narrative
- #83: Preparing for the Worst
- #84: The Huge Impact of Luck
Interlude: Phone Etiquette for 2019
- #85: The Importance of Individuals
- #86: The Importance of Institutions
- #87: The Importance of Culture
- #88: The Importance of Incentives
Interlude: Thirteen Ways to Change Someone’s Mind
- #89: The Importance of History
- #90: Why Things Are the Way They Are
- #91: Addressing Ignorance
- #92: A Purposeful Life
Interlude: A Guide to Conversational Etiquette
- #93: Why Xenophobia is Bad
- #94: Six Reasons Why Multiculturalism is Good
- #95: Recognizing and Combating Cults
- #96: Recognizing and Combating Extremism
Interlude: How to Drink with Class
- #97: How to Gain (and Lose) Willpower
- #98: Being an Adult
- #99: Lies, Damn Lies, and Modern Lies
- #100: Survival on the Edge
- #101: When, Why and How to Forgive
- #102: Recognizing Social Tools
- #103: The Limits of Work Ethic
- #104: The Fine Art of Being a Good Manager
Interlude: How to be a Guest: 12 Tips
- #105: The Fickle Nature of Reality — How Change Happens
- #106: The Need for a Personal Philosophy
- #107: The False Problem of the “Unnatural”
- #108: The Fine Art of Negotiation
Interlude: How to Claim Credit (In a Nice Way)
Interlude: How to Survive a Global Pandemic
- #109: Ten Tips for Better Communication
- #110: A Rational Value of Self
- #111: How Organizations Collapse
- #112: The War for Mercy
Interlude: The Art of a Good Presentation
- #113: Surviving a Stay in the Hospital
- #114: The Necessity of Equal Justice
- #115: The Eight Signs of a Positive Relationship
- #116: The Basics of Good Sex
- #117: Unpacking the Concept of Gender
End of the Modern Survival Guide Vol. 1
But wait, there’s more! The Modern Survival Guide continues in Volume II!